Fall in Manhattan

Hi everyone,

I’m spending some time in the city that My Life as a Doormat began:  Manhattan.  Without this magical yet challenging  place, I wouldn’t have been capable of writing my book.  Although a work of fiction, My  Life as a Doormat is based on many real experiences and feelings from my young adulthood.

It’s reassuring seeing many of the landmarks mentioned in my book are still here. They’ve withstood the test of time.  As have I.

To get your copy of My Life as a Doormat click the link below.

https://thesocietyforrecoveringdoormats.com/product/my-life-as-a-doormat-book/

By |2018-10-20T10:35:13-04:00October 19th, 2018|"My Life as a Doormat" Book|0 Comments

Save Our Energy for Things That Matter

The suggestion of looking the other way, isn’t promoting or encouraging anyone to put their head in the sand and dismiss a harsh reality. Not recommending denial. The signature doormat behavior of people-pleasers is staying silent for fear of a confrontation. I’m not in favor of this at all. But, turning away from a situation that can not be changed by our involvement is different than staying silent for fear based reasons. (more…)

By |2018-06-19T16:14:50-04:00June 19th, 2018|Miscellaneous mattiness|7 Comments

Why do I always do the right thing for the wrong people?

Right thing for wrong people

Chances are if you’re a people pleaser you are indiscriminate about whom you care about.  You do for others what you should be doing for yourself.   As an accommodating and passive, non confrontational and easy-going person, hours are spent worrying about doing the right thing. Or worse; worried about the past.  The past which is gone and can’t be changed.  Insecure and terrified about hurting other people’s feelings and doing what others want is the go to behavior of people pleasers; affectionately know as doormats. (more…)

By |2018-01-15T17:34:46-05:00October 18th, 2017|Miscellaneous mattiness|2 Comments

See what’s being said about “My Life as a Doormat”

By Tracy on September 29, 2017
Format: Kindle Edition

Love, Love Loved this book. One reason was I grew up in Miami Florida and understand Rose Gardner’s life. if you want to get away from all the political B.S. and enjoy reading about something other than the news, this is a great read. I have always felt like I let people walk all over me because I want to please others and don’t want to be thought of as a bitch.

Reading this opened my eyes to a real change in my attitude about knowing that you can be kind, nice and not let people take you for granted.This is a clear lesson in what NOT to do. This is her story but I bet you see yourself in Rose. Buy it, read it and you will see there is a big lesson to be learned.

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By |2018-01-17T14:18:07-05:00October 5th, 2017|"My Life as a Doormat" Book|0 Comments

Verbal abuse is abuse.

The power of hurtful language is just as damaging and maybe even more detrimental than a physical assault.  If someone strikes us, afterwards we can see the wound heal and know exactly what to do. Many times we choose to leave the relationship.  A physical  affront will make us take action. In most cases, will permit us to make a healthy decision about how to move forward.

But when the abuse is verbal, some fragment gets lodged within our mind and continues to replay itself.  The wound never heals, and we remain within the abusive relationship, justifying the abusers behavior.   But verbal abuse just like physical abuse is never okay, and should never be minimized or tolerated.

Stand up, speak out and walk away.  verbal abuse is not ok

By |2016-07-31T10:32:17-04:00July 31st, 2016|Miscellaneous mattiness|8 Comments

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