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Fall in Manhattan

Hi everyone,

I’m spending some time in the city that My Life as a Doormat began:  Manhattan.  Without this magical yet challenging  place, I wouldn’t have been capable of writing my book.  Although a work of fiction, My  Life as a Doormat is based on many real experiences and feelings from my young adulthood.

It’s reassuring seeing many of the landmarks mentioned in my book are still here. They’ve withstood the test of time.  As have I.

To get your copy of My Life as a Doormat click the link below.

https://thesocietyforrecoveringdoormats.com/product/my-life-as-a-doormat-book/

Take a Chance.

We like to play it safe. We’ve stuck with the familiar because it feels comfortable and gives us a sense of security. But how secure are we? (more…)

Save Our Energy for Things That Matter

The suggestion of looking the other way, isn’t promoting or encouraging anyone to put their head in the sand and dismiss a harsh reality. Not recommending denial. The signature doormat behavior of people-pleasers is staying silent for fear of a confrontation. I’m not in favor of this at all. But, turning away from a situation that can not be changed by our involvement is different than staying silent for fear based reasons. (more…)

What to do if you are tired.

“If you are tired, rest.” It seems so simple, but many of us deny ourselves this needed self-care. Or if we do rest, we feel guilty about not actively engaging in life. We start “should-ing” ourselves about doing something productive.

Remember that rest IS productive for maintaining good mental health. And this is something forgotten. Most recovering mats have put themselves last for so long and self-care doesn’t receive the attention it deserves. (more…)