With the current chaos in our world, amplified and distorted by the media 24/7, it is easy to get caught up in the turmoil. Today, more than ever, we have to believe better days are coming. Repeat this thought often and share it with others. As recovering doormats we can’t let these turbulent times send us back to hiding within our comfort zones. We can’t use it as an excuse not to stand up and move forward.
I believe with all my heart better days are coming and encourage all to do the same.
“A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life. ” Andrew Matthews
Thank you to all who visit, comment and share The Society for Recovering Doormats. Wishing everyone a safe, peaceful, healthy and happy new year. Sending big hugs and much love to all. *Ivy Tobin aka Rose Gardner.
For newbies here: *Ivy Tobin aka Rose Gardner: I am an author and Rose is my alter ego. I use her strength to help others stand up and speak out and realize they are not alone.
We’re all standing up and speaking out together. Rose can always lead the way, sometimes as a conduit for all struggling. Or just someone to reach out to on-line when no one else will listen.
Ivy is a recovering doormat, trying my best my best to stay off the floor.
How many times have we accepted others views without question? Allowed their thoughts to reign supreme and leave our own opinions unspoken. Or IF we speak out, and our ideas are met with disapproval, contempt, and invalidated, remain silent and allow others to feed our self-doubts.
People pleasers, aka doormats, accept others negative views as absolute truth because we’re programmed not to make waves, or disagree. Stuffing down our own feelings and opinions is harmful and results in self-doubt, low self-esteem and inordinate amounts of stress. Allowing other people’s thoughts and values to govern our lives is dangerous because it determines our self-worth.
STOP listening to other people.
Being aware of this pitfall is an important step in recovering from doormatism. Knowing that other’s value judgements don’t matter is freeing! Validating our own efforts, accomplishments and self-worth is all that’s important.
The world is in flux, with nothing certain or guaranteed except more confusion and uncertainty. During these turbulent times we must not give up hope. Now, more than ever, it is vital keeping our priorities straight and not participate in dramas we can’t control.
Focus on what we can do to help bring forth a better and brighter tomorrow.
Connect with like-minded people and let the rest go.
Many thanks to all visiting and sharing The Society for Recovering Doormats. I want you to know how much I appreciate your viewership here, and on my other social media platforms. 2015 was a year of life lessons and tremendous personal growth and your continued presence helps keep me off the floor too.
As the new year begins, I happily announce the drafting of my second novel. Many have inquired what happens to Roseafter My life as a Doormat? The second book will answer that question. Now that I’ve made this announcement public, I guess I have to really set a deadline and get this book done!
Wishing you and your loved ones the happiest and healthiest New Year possible.
People who love you, love you. They are embracing and don’t manipulate,criticize or judge. They are caring, supportive and their loyalty is never in question. Unconditional love is rare and magical. Once experienced, you will settle for nothing less.