Chances are if you’re a people pleaser you are indiscriminate about whom you care about. You do for others what you should be doing for yourself. As an accommodating and passive, non confrontational and easy-going person, hours are spent worrying about doing the right thing. Or worse; worried about the past. The past which is gone and can’t be changed. Insecure and terrified about hurting other people’s feelings and doing what others want is the go to behavior of people pleasers; affectionately know as doormats. (more…)
Everyone is responsible for themselves, and it’s not your job to justify other’s bad behavior. If you’re constantly defending someone’s words and deeds then it’s time to reevaluate the relationship. Trust yourself enough to know if you experience someones comments and actions as inconsiderate, rude and offensive that you’re right. Stop putting your head in sand and ignoring your inner truth. It’s time to take the doormat glasses off and see the person through reality lenses.