4 Tips For Avoiding Backsliding During The Holidays

 

The holidays are tough for many recovering doormats. If you’re at a gathering where known manipulating narcissists are present, please keep in mind these 4 tips to avoid slippage and backsliding into doormatish behavior.

  1. Do not accommodate.

 This is the number one behavior to stay vigilant about.  Remember, the word NO is your best friend; everyday, and especially during the holidays. Remember to enforce your boundaries because if left unguarded the danger of backsliding into mattish behavior is imminent. (more…)

By | 2018-01-16T01:32:27+00:00 November 20th, 2017|Miscellaneous mattiness|0 Comments

Why do I always do the right thing for the wrong people?

Right thing for wrong people

Chances are if you’re a people pleaser you are indiscriminate about whom you care about.  You do for others what you should be doing for yourself.   As an accommodating and passive, non confrontational and easy-going person, hours are spent worrying about doing the right thing. Or worse; worried about the past.  The past which is gone and can’t be changed.  Insecure and terrified about hurting other people’s feelings and doing what others want is the go to behavior of people pleasers; affectionately know as doormats. (more…)

By | 2018-01-15T17:34:46+00:00 October 18th, 2017|Miscellaneous mattiness|2 Comments

Update on my second book –

I’m starting  work on chapter 13 in my next book!  Although I haven’t decided on a final title yet, I’m considering Not Just My Mother’s Daughter. 

Book 2 takes place in the early 1990’s.  Rose Gardner is faced with a new set of challenges, situations and people to stand up to. Many of the same characters from       My Life as a Doormat are featured and new ones are added as the complicated relationship between mother and daughter is explored.

Below is  an excerpt.  I’d love to hear what you think of the title, and this blurb.

Excerpt for Book 2

By | 2017-10-07T11:18:27+00:00 October 7th, 2017|Book 2 untitled, Uncategorized|5 Comments

See what’s being said about “My Life as a Doormat”

By Tracy on September 29, 2017
Format: Kindle Edition

Love, Love Loved this book. One reason was I grew up in Miami Florida and understand Rose Gardener’s life. if you want to get away from all the political B.S. and enjoy reading about something other than the news, this is a great read. I have always felt like I let people walk all over me because I want to please others and don’t want to be thought of as a bitch.

Reading this opened my eyes to a real change in my attitude about knowing that you can be kind, nice and not let people take you for granted.This is a clear lesson in what NOT to do. This is her story but I bet you see yourself in Rose. Buy it, read it and you will see there is a big lesson to be learned.

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By | 2018-01-17T14:18:07+00:00 October 5th, 2017|"My Life as a Doormat" Book|0 Comments

Excerpts from ‘My Life as a Doormat’

About Work…

By September’s end, I was no longer happy scraping dried scrambled eggs off my waitress apron. Too many shifts, temperamental cooks and the grim reality of schlepping food sucked. My moment as a film actress had long passed and the trauma of “A Whisper of Opportunity” has faded. After my brief hiatus, I was more than ready to get back into the acting game.
My Life as a Doormat, by Rose Gardener

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By | 2018-01-17T19:17:56+00:00 August 26th, 2017|"My Life as a Doormat" Book|0 Comments