Update on my second book –

I’m starting  work on chapter 13 in my next book!  Although I haven’t decided on a final title yet, I’m considering Not Just My Mother’s Daughter. 

Book 2 takes place in the early 1990’s.  Rose Gardner is faced with a new set of challenges, situations and people to stand up to. Many of the same characters from       My Life as a Doormat are featured and new ones are added as the complicated relationship between mother and daughter is explored.

Below is  an excerpt.  I’d love to hear what you think of the title, and this blurb.

Excerpt for Book 2

By | 2017-10-07T11:18:27+00:00 October 7th, 2017|Book 2 untitled, Uncategorized|5 Comments

Welcome 2017 Happy New Year

Thank you to all who visit, comment and share The Society for Recovering Doormats. Wishing everyone a safe, peaceful, healthy and happy new year.  Sending big hugs and much love to all.   *Ivy Tobin aka Rose Gardner.

For newbies here:  *Ivy Tobin aka Rose Gardner:   I am an author and Rose is my alter ego.  I use her strength to help others stand up and speak out and realize they are not alone.

We’re all standing up and speaking out together.  Rose can always lead the way,  sometimes as a conduit for all struggling. Or just someone to reach out to on-line when no one else will listen.

Ivy is a recovering doormat, trying my best my best to stay off the floor. 

happy-new-year

By | 2017-01-01T13:09:21+00:00 January 1st, 2017|Miscellaneous mattiness, Uncategorized|2 Comments

Friday’s with Dr. Terry Segal

I’m so honored having Dr. Terry Segal with us providing professional insight for many problems recovering doormats face.  She’ll be with us every Friday until the year’s end.

11/4   Click below and read how to handle unacceptable behavior in a healthy, empowering way    http://enchantedjourney.club/unacceptable-behavior/?subscribe=success#blog_subscription-3

11/ 11 Click below and read about not taking responsibility for other  peoples bad moods moodshttp://enchantedjourney.club/assuming-responsibility-others-bad-moods/

11/18 Click below and read about self blame and how to stop –http://enchantedjourney.club/self-blame/

12/2 Click below and read about apologizing. ALL recovering mats do this and many in excess.  A must read for all visiting.  – http://enchantedjourney.club/apologize/

12/9 Click below and read about how to deal with demeaning behavior.  http://enchantedjourney.club/silent-demeaning-behavior/

12/16 Click below and get some guidance with confrontation and negating feelings  http://enchantedjourney.club/confrontation-negating-feelings/

By | 2016-11-04T12:16:16+00:00 November 4th, 2016|Miscellaneous mattiness, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Let go of unworthy people.

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Let go

Do you feel less than and invisible after spending time with someone? If so, this person is toxic.  Letting go of toxic people is the healthiest option for a recovering doormat.   Surround yourself with those who lift you higher, bring you joy and love you unconditionally.

By | 2014-12-26T19:14:40+00:00 December 26th, 2014|Uncategorized|2 Comments

No one is perfect.

Let go of regretting words left unsaid, and actions  unexpressed.  Also forgive yourself for words and actions done in haste.   We are only human, and  everyone makes mistakes.  No one is perfect. no one is perfect

By | 2014-04-09T11:11:56+00:00 April 9th, 2014|Uncategorized|33 Comments