What to do if you are tired.

“If you are tired, rest.” It seems so simple, but many of us deny ourselves this needed self-care. Or if we do rest, we feel guilty about not actively engaging in life. We start “should-ing” ourselves about doing something productive.

Remember that rest IS productive for maintaining good mental health. And this is something forgotten. Most recovering mats have put themselves last for so long and self-care doesn’t receive the attention it deserves. (more…)

By |2018-03-31T20:16:04+00:00March 31st, 2018|Uncategorized|2 Comments

Update on my second book –

I’m starting  work on chapter 13 in my next book!  Although I haven’t decided on a final title yet, I’m considering Not Just My Mother’s Daughter. 

Book 2 takes place in the early 1990’s.  Rose Gardner is faced with a new set of challenges, situations and people to stand up to. Many of the same characters from       My Life as a Doormat are featured and new ones are added as the complicated relationship between mother and daughter is explored.

Below is  an excerpt.  I’d love to hear what you think of the title, and this blurb.

Excerpt for Book 2

By |2017-10-07T11:18:27+00:00October 7th, 2017|Book 2 untitled, Uncategorized|5 Comments

Friday’s with Dr. Terry Segal

I’m so honored having Dr. Terry Segal with us providing professional insight for many problems recovering doormats face.  She’ll be with us every Friday until the year’s end.

11/4   Click below and read how to handle unacceptable behavior in a healthy, empowering way    http://enchantedjourney.club/unacceptable-behavior/?subscribe=success#blog_subscription-3

11/ 11 Click below and read about not taking responsibility for other  peoples bad moods moodshttp://enchantedjourney.club/assuming-responsibility-others-bad-moods/

11/18 Click below and read about self blame and how to stop –http://enchantedjourney.club/self-blame/

12/2 Click below and read about apologizing. ALL recovering mats do this and many in excess.  A must read for all visiting.  – http://enchantedjourney.club/apologize/

12/9 Click below and read about how to deal with demeaning behavior.  http://enchantedjourney.club/silent-demeaning-behavior/

12/16 Click below and get some guidance with confrontation and negating feelings  http://enchantedjourney.club/confrontation-negating-feelings/

By |2016-11-04T12:16:16+00:00November 4th, 2016|Miscellaneous mattiness, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Let go of unworthy people.

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Let go

Do you feel less than and invisible after spending time with someone? If so, this person is toxic.  Letting go of toxic people is the healthiest option for a recovering doormat.   Surround yourself with those who lift you higher, bring you joy and love you unconditionally.

By |2014-12-26T19:14:40+00:00December 26th, 2014|Uncategorized|2 Comments

No one is perfect.

Let go of regretting words left unsaid, and actions  unexpressed.  Also forgive yourself for words and actions done in haste.   We are only human, and  everyone makes mistakes.  No one is perfect. no one is perfect

By |2014-04-09T11:11:56+00:00April 9th, 2014|Uncategorized|33 Comments