We like to play it safe. We’ve stuck with the familiar because it feels comfortable and gives us a sense of security. But how secure are we? (more…)
“If you are tired, rest.” It seems so simple, but many of us deny ourselves this needed self-care. Or if we do rest, we feel guilty about not actively engaging in life. We start “should-ing” ourselves about doing something productive.
Remember that rest IS productive for maintaining good mental health. And this is something forgotten. Most recovering mats have put themselves last for so long and self-care doesn’t receive the attention it deserves. (more…)
I’m starting work on chapter 13 in my next book! Although I haven’t decided on a final title yet, I’m considering Not Just My Mother’s Daughter.
Book 2 takes place in the early 1990’s. Rose Gardner is faced with a new set of challenges, situations and people to stand up to. Many of the same characters from My Life as a Doormat are featured and new ones are added as the complicated relationship between mother and daughter is explored.
Below is an excerpt. I’d love to hear what you think of the title, and this blurb.
I’m excited being featured on this great blog site.
Check it out by clicking on the link below.
http://fabulousfloridawriters.blogspot.com/2017/05/ivy-tobin-calling-all-doormats.html
Thank you to all who visit, comment and share The Society for Recovering Doormats. Wishing everyone a safe, peaceful, healthy and happy new year. Sending big hugs and much love to all. (more…)
I’m so honored having Dr. Terry Segal with us providing professional insight for many problems recovering doormats face. She’ll be with us every Friday until the year’s end.
11/4 Click below and read how to handle unacceptable behavior in a healthy, empowering way http://enchantedjourney.club/unacceptable-behavior/?subscribe=success#blog_subscription-3
11/ 11 Click below and read about not taking responsibility for other peoples bad moods moodshttp://enchantedjourney.club/assuming-responsibility-others-bad-moods/
11/18 Click below and read about self blame and how to stop –http://enchantedjourney.club/self-blame/
12/2 Click below and read about apologizing. ALL recovering mats do this and many in excess. A must read for all visiting. – http://enchantedjourney.club/apologize/
12/9 Click below and read about how to deal with demeaning behavior. http://enchantedjourney.club/silent-demeaning-behavior/
12/16 Click below and get some guidance with confrontation and negating feelings http://enchantedjourney.club/confrontation-negating-feelings/
Let go
Do you feel less than and invisible after spending time with someone? If so, this person is toxic. Letting go of toxic people is the healthiest option for a recovering doormat. Surround yourself with those who lift you higher, bring you joy and love you unconditionally.
Let go of regretting words left unsaid, and actions unexpressed. Also forgive yourself for words and actions done in haste. We are only human, and everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect. 
