What to do if you are tired.

“If you are tired, rest.” It seems so simple, but many of us deny ourselves this needed self-care. Or if we do rest, we feel guilty about not actively engaging in life. We start “should-ing” ourselves about doing something productive.

Remember that rest IS productive for maintaining good mental health. And this is something forgotten. Most recovering mats have put themselves last for so long and self-care doesn’t receive the attention it deserves.

We don’t need to be sick with doctor’s note, or permission from anybody.  As seasoned adults, it’s our well deserved right to unplug and chill when we are tired and stop brushing off “rest” as a waste of time.

Take time everyday, without guilt or obsessing about time-wasting, without reasons or explanations; disconnect and unwind.

For me it’s a walk on the beach, or an afternoon power nap restoring my inner peace.  Please shout out in the comment section below what YOU do to relax and recharge.  What makes you feel rested and content? If you can’t think of anything, chances are you’re tired and need to think about what you can do. Then do it!  End of story.

By |2018-03-31T20:16:04+00:00March 31st, 2018|Uncategorized|4 Comments


  1. Amy Howe July 21, 2018 at 4:21 AM - Reply

    End of story, Amen! I preach, hard, to the women I know how important it is to take care of “the caregiver”! Some do not listen until life throws the a curve & forces them, some accidently have an experience that shows them how beautiful it is, some listen & thank me……then there are those who suffer & bitch!!
    For myself, I was raised by a great woman who believed in caring for herself. She was a stay at home Mom-successful authoress & artist & then stay at home Grandma. She told me she chose her job to be stay at home. Daddy worked hard to provide, wonderfully, thus she vowed to care for our family the same. She did, however, have an extremely selfish & vain side that worked out in my favor. Things I now know we’re all self-care & time to breathe activities. Manicures & pedicures were a monthly necessity, she let me order ProActiv upon my first pimple & she made sure, even when finances were tight, we had a fabulous shopping trip together to pick out my new year school wardrobe (usually on layaway, but picked up within a month & 1/2). Naps were encouraged & having an outlet was definately encouraged. I was in every sport, took place in all her creative outlets, until I settled into my own routine.
    Gratefully, she was an active Mom thru my whole life & that of my daughter.. All the extras I got became a family tradition for my daughter to enjoy (fortunately, she has better skin).
    It really are the little things, simple pleasures, that get overlooked in such a busy life we live today. My parents had a hectic life & they were great partners with just me at home for 10 years, then having my brother move in in with us (Dads son from 1st marriage). It gets much harder as a single parent, such as I was, even with a loving support system. I can’t even imagine what it would be like as a single parent with no support system. No matter the situation, time off has to be taken to breathe, to be one’s self, or get back in touch with who they are anymore. It used to be called selfish, now it’s called necessary.

    • Ivy Tobin July 21, 2018 at 9:52 AM - Reply

      Thanks so much for posting your thoughts Amy.

  2. pat October 2, 2018 at 3:23 PM - Reply

    Ha! So simple and so true! I’m new to the blog and this article caught my eye because I was just thinking, ” I’m tired. I need to take a nap.” On my way to do so right now!

    • Ivy Tobin October 2, 2018 at 11:53 PM - Reply

      Hi Pat,
      Welcome to my blog. I hope it is the first of many visits . 🙂

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