We all know people who are masters at pushing our buttons. Most are family members and close friends. They aren’t toxic but cause enormous stress. They’re well-meaning but their good intentions are counterproductive to our needs and elevate our stress level.
Knowing WHO these people are, then keeping a safe distance (especially in stressful situations) is one way to manage their good intentions.
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i just moved and i had three people stress me to the max.have not gone back to any of them.no contact for me is the answer.i will say hello and that is it.i walk away.karen
Good luck in your new place Karen. Stick to your guns and continue taking good care of yourself. If anyone stresses you out, stay away from them. Perfect plan. End of story. Wishing you a happy, healthy and peaceful New Year <3 Rose
i just had an situation with a friend/co-worker… who wanted me to come back to work…she knows i am a good worker….. and then told me she had ‘enough of me’…along with the silent treatment….only to then start picking and undercutting things i had not gotten to …or ‘supposedly’ had not even done…. with no appreciation for the things i had done…. but then to run to the boss …with lies! I just got emotional…with so many feelings.. and thoughts….I had been so determined to not let her get to me….BUT i cared about her and the job!! I didn’t want to be the cause of upset.. i thought she’d come around.. however.. she didn’t. She has let me know how she really feels about me!!..
Hi Rosalie, there is a saying “Once someone shows you WHO they are: believe them the FIRST TIME.” people don’t change. I am sorry you are struggling and hope you can move on quickly to people who appreciate you. Thanks for sharing here. <3