It’s Not My Fault.

It is absolutely not Thinking you’re responsible for others moods, behavior, choices and happiness is an underlying problem for most doormats.  Many of us are empaths, empathizing  and experiencing  the feelings and thoughts of others as our own. And worse; taking responsibility for them.  Detaching is an arduous task but can be achieved. Next time you’re around someone who’s in a funk, remember this one truth: “It’s not my fault ” and respond accordingly.

Unless your life is reclusive, and interaction with others is negligible, reminding yourself      it is not your fault is paramount for becoming and remaining a recovering doormat.

Need daily reminders? Or a meaningful gift for the recovering doormat in your life? Visit The Society for Recovering Doormat Shop by following the link below –

By |2016-03-28T13:27:58+00:00March 28th, 2016|Miscellaneous mattiness|4 Comments


  1. Dr. Terry Segal April 5, 2016 at 8:34 AM - Reply

    Great awareness for everyone to keep in mind.

  2. Ivy Daugherty September 3, 2016 at 5:56 PM - Reply

    The more I read your words, the more I realize I need them on speed dial in my head. I cannot seem to retain them. I read…..the words speak to me and then sink in the quicksand of the old mental status quo of my thinking and feeling. I must need a crash course in deep mind / emotion retraining. It’s like a rubberband that snaps back to its original shape. Ivy, would you consider renting space in my head for a while? Lol.
    Any suggestions on how to saturate myself to begin the reprogram process.?

    • ivytobin September 3, 2016 at 10:33 PM - Reply

      Hi Ivy,
      If it were possible for me to ‘rent space in your head’ I would. But, alas, I don’t think I have that kind of capability at the moment. Might I suggest visiting my on-line-shop where there are many useful motivational items to help you remember to ‘stand up and speak out’ and combat doormatism. Here’s the link- If you don’t find what you’re looking for, I will be happy to custom make anything you want. Just message me here.

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