If it brings you joy, say yes. If it doesn’t, say no. Sometimes it isn’t possible sticking with a cut and dry answer, but many times it is just this simple. Negating people and situations you know guarantee misery is a vital part of self care.
Self care isn’t selfish; it’s necessary even if it means disappointing others. Slipping back into people pleasing mode is always a real possibility for recovering doormats, so before saying ‘yes’ to anybody, consider first, if you’re saying ‘yes’ to yourself as well.
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