If it brings you joy, say yes. If it doesn’t, say no.  Sometimes it isn’t possible sticking with a  cut and dry answer, but many times it is just this simple.  Negating people and situations you know guarantee misery is a vital part of self care. 

Self care isn’t selfish;  it’s necessary even if it means disappointing others.  Slipping back into people pleasing mode is always a real possibility  for recovering doormats, so  before saying ‘yes’ to anybody, consider first, if you’re saying ‘yes’ to yourself as well.  

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Today.