Are you too nice?

Too nice
Most doormats care too much and are too nice.

Niceness is an underrated, unappreciated asset setting us apart from inconsiderate, self absorbed, narcissistic  ‘A’ listers.  We’re kind and loving and it’s our responsibility  to embrace ourselves, unashamed of our former doormat status. Celebrating our good hearts, warm and giving nature and remaining  un jaded is vital during our recovery from doormatism.

Niceness is our wonderful asset, but as recovering mats, must be tempered with caution.

By |2015-07-30T09:37:52+00:00July 30th, 2015|Miscellaneous mattiness|9 Comments


  1. drterrysegal August 6, 2015 at 11:41 AM - Reply

    I’ve experienced this and know its truth. Sad, but true.

    • ivytobin August 6, 2015 at 11:47 AM - Reply

      Yes Dr. Segal. Sad, but true. Thanks so much for commenting today. <3

  2. andrea August 9, 2015 at 10:46 AM - Reply

    why why why is this true???

  3. Ariane's Place August 9, 2015 at 9:59 PM - Reply

    Story of my life, even with my own family…

    • ivytobin August 10, 2015 at 12:19 PM - Reply

      Hi Ariane, being ‘too nice’ is very common within our group. Try to set some boundaries, and remember you are worthy. Be nice to yourself FIRST. Always!

  4. Steve August 10, 2015 at 1:14 AM - Reply

    Niceness can be a disease.

    • ivytobin August 10, 2015 at 12:16 PM - Reply

      Yes indeed. Approval addiction is a REAL addiction just like drug addiction. Thanks for shouting out Steve.

      • Kathy August 19, 2015 at 2:09 PM - Reply

        I too, have experienced this.

  5. Kathy August 19, 2015 at 2:08 PM - Reply

    This is so sadly true!!!! we were bought up to be “nice” and now we are being “walked all over” by a generation who lacks integrity!

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