People pleasers feel comfortable as by-standers and allow other’s to decide, then map out their lives. Resigned to existing instead of living , people pleasers use justification as a powerful coping tool. Finding a million reasons not to stand up for authentic beliefs and remaining silent seems easier. Laundry listing reasons not to succeed: simpler. Avoiding confrontation may ensure tranquility but propels us into doormat status; doomed to exist instead of live.
We have a choice. But every choice has a price. There’s no guarantee what will manifest if we choose using our voice, and live authentically. The only guarantee comes with making excuses: and for me, that price is too high.