5 Benefits of saying no.

5 Benefits of saying 'no'  One of the biggest challenges of people pleaser’s is saying no.  Saying yes to everyone and negating our own desires equals DOORMAT.  Plain and simple.  It takes time to unlearn this very unhealthy, destructive habit of being a yes person. It won’t be easy and will take time until saying no feels authentic. But completely worth the effort.

By |2015-01-14T10:34:06+00:00January 14th, 2015|Miscellaneous mattiness|8 Comments


  1. drterrysegal January 19, 2015 at 1:01 PM - Reply

    SO true and SO worth it! Yes! (I mean, NO!) 😀

  2. ivytobin January 20, 2015 at 10:58 AM - Reply

    Yes it is! Thanks so much for commenting 🙂

  3. Elle, for Life January 26, 2015 at 3:26 PM - Reply

    I’ve been on the receiving end of several informal interventions, and I’m realizing only now how true it is that I am susceptible to peer pressure and people-pleasing. Thanks for today’s dose of confidence!

    • ivytobin January 27, 2015 at 10:42 AM - Reply

      You are so welcome Elle. Thanks so much for your viewership. Have an awesome day. <3

  4. magcanright March 8, 2015 at 2:32 PM - Reply

    You don’t have to have an excuse for saying no. I used to conjure up reasons, and it was tiring and confusing trying to remember what I said and to whom. Plus, it can become fodder for gossip, especially if you’re excuse is exposed as untrue.

    • ivytobin April 10, 2015 at 8:57 AM - Reply

      So true Mag. No excuses are necessary. No is no. Period. End of discussion. <3

  5. magcanright March 8, 2015 at 2:39 PM - Reply

    Saying no, especially when everyone knows you always say yes, can be very uncomfortable. (Especially at church!) It may even challenge some of your relationships. True friends will accept; false ones will fall by the wayside. Stay calm and remain firm, and don’t apologize! You are NOT being selfish; you are exercising mature self-interest.

    • ivytobin March 8, 2015 at 2:54 PM - Reply

      Hi magcanright, you are so right on with this insight. Thanks for shouting out! Have a wonderful day. <3

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