Something you need to remember –


By |2014-11-02T10:05:17+00:00November 2nd, 2014|Miscellaneous mattiness|15 Comments


  1. Cindy Aglor November 3, 2014 at 8:25 AM - Reply

    This is so true, sometimes there is such a thin thread holding my mat back, it’s hard work.

    • ivytobin November 3, 2014 at 9:46 AM - Reply

      Yes that is true Cindy. It is hard work; but worth the effort. <3

  2. drterrysegal November 3, 2014 at 4:12 PM - Reply

    Thank you for the reminder! So important.

  3. Irene Duckett Racicot December 13, 2014 at 2:20 AM - Reply

    I always feel like the awkward fledgling that takes a looooong time just to be able to hover over the “mat”, much less fly any distance above/beyond it! Even with a few years therapy under my belt, I still have a hard time not giving in to the “pleasing everyone and put myself last” ideal….ESPECIALLY at the holidays! Thanks for the meme….it DOES help a lot! 😀 Good to be reminded that we are, after all, human! LOL 😀

    • ivytobin December 13, 2014 at 1:09 PM - Reply

      So glad you found this meme helpful. Keeping moving forward and saying YES TO YOURSELF FIRST. Happy Holidays. <3 Rose G.

  4. magcanright March 9, 2015 at 1:16 PM - Reply

    Doormats are experts at beating ourselves up. Many of us are perfectionists and there’s always something we think we coulda/shouda/woulda done better. When I was a child, I once brought home a test with a 100 on it. My dad’s only comment was, “Why didn’t you get the extra 20 bonus points?” We all need to be kinder to ourselves. Treat yourself as you treat others–with kindness, encouragement, understanding, patience.

    • Lynn March 9, 2015 at 7:57 PM - Reply

      Glad to see I’m not the only who experienced that as a child. And also nice too know that I am not this way entirely due to my own fault/ mistakes… Thank you.

      • ivytobin March 10, 2015 at 3:41 PM - Reply

        YOU are not alone Lynn! and please remember ‘its NOT your fault’! There are thousands of us with the same issues. That is one of the reasons I started The Society for Recovering Doormats. If you visit my FB page, (The Society for Recovering Doormats) you will certainly KNOW you are in a lot of great company. 46,000 PLUS all standing up and speaking out. Thanks for being with us.

    • ivytobin March 10, 2015 at 3:37 PM - Reply

      Awesome insight Mag. Thank you 🙂

    • ivytobin March 10, 2015 at 3:54 PM - Reply

      AMEN 100 times Mag! Stop beating yourself up for OTHER’S injustices to you. Your dad asking “why you didn’t get the extra 20 points?” is a clear example of someone having unfair expectations and blaming YOU for not meeting THEIR NEEDS. I am sure your dad meant well, but his behavior was very thoughtless and unkind. As a small child perhaps you interpreted his reaction as ‘I’m not good enough’. Sadly, our parents meant well, but bred a lot of insecurities in us along the way. (Speaking for myself here) The good news is, once you realize that ‘It’s NOT YOUR FAULT’ you can truly move forward. We can’t blame our parents and others and are ultimately 100% responsible for ourselves.

  5. magcanright March 11, 2015 at 1:09 PM - Reply

    Living up to other people’s expectations–parents, spouses, friends–is exhausting and IMPOSSIBLE, so might as well give it up. Sometimes people will be disappointed, but that’s their problem, and a reflection on them and the baggage they carry, not a measure of your worth.

  6. TJ February 18, 2016 at 2:44 PM - Reply

    The last couple of weeks have really battered me. 🙁

    • ivytobin February 18, 2016 at 4:11 PM - Reply

      Hi TJ, I have no idea what you are talking about. Please explain.

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