Friday’s with Dr. Terry Segal

I’m so honored having Dr. Terry Segal with us providing professional insight for many problems recovering doormats face.  She’ll be with us every Friday until the year’s end.

11/4   Click below and read how to handle unacceptable behavior in a healthy, empowering way    http://enchantedjourney.club/unacceptable-behavior/?subscribe=success#blog_subscription-3

11/ 11 Click below and read about not taking responsibility for other  peoples bad moods moodshttp://enchantedjourney.club/assuming-responsibility-others-bad-moods/

11/18 Click below and read about self blame and how to stop –http://enchantedjourney.club/self-blame/

12/2 Click below and read about apologizing. ALL recovering mats do this and many in excess.  A must read for all visiting.  – http://enchantedjourney.club/apologize/

12/9 Click below and read about how to deal with demeaning behavior.  http://enchantedjourney.club/silent-demeaning-behavior/

12/16 Click below and get some guidance with confrontation and negating feelings  http://enchantedjourney.club/confrontation-negating-feelings/

By |2016-11-04T12:16:16-04:00November 4th, 2016|Miscellaneous mattiness, Uncategorized|0 Comments

The Society for Recovering Doormats turns 4 today.

Four years ago today, I began my site on Facebook.  A few months later I expanded to this blog site.  In late November of 2014 My Life as a Doormat, a novel I’d spent 10 years developing, was published

In 2015 I started my book tour, many signings and events at Barnes and Nobles in Florida.  I also opened an on-line-store on Cafe Press. I’m a little technology challenged, but by some miracle by the end of 2015 I managed to get onto most social media platforms. I also began work on my second novel; a sequel to My Life as a Doormat.

During 2016 I continued touring in Florida, and included New Jersey, New York City and Asheville North Carolina.  August’s highlight was being interviewed on a PBS TV show called Between The Covers. Since I was an actor long before writing, I was very excited to do the show, and my interest for getting back into ‘show biz’ renewed.

So here I am, 4 years, a book, and 70, 400 followers later, wondering what to do next?

Many thanks to all sharing my vision and  supporting my journey.

4 years old

By |2016-10-23T17:44:26-04:00October 23rd, 2016|Miscellaneous mattiness|2 Comments

October Events

Calling all North Carolina doormats!  

I’ll be at Barnes & Noble on October 15th. See below for details.

My Life As a DoormatI’m so excited for my up-coming book event at Barnes & Noble in Asheville North Carolina on Saturday October 15th at 2:00PM,  If you’re in the area please stop by and say hello!

Saturday, October 15th 2:00PM – 3:30PM

Barnes and Noble in Asheville Mall

3 South Tunnel Road 
Asheville, NC 28805 
828-296-7335 

Author Signing(Biography, Fiction, Humor) 

“Please join us in welcoming author Rose Gardner who will be discussing and signing her book My Life as a Doormat. In this fictionalized biography, it is 1980 and naïve Rose has moved to New York to pursue her acting career. Anxious and uncertain, Rose must learn to stand up and speak for herself — the rallying cry of The Society for Recovering Doormats!”

https://stores.barnesandnoble.com/event/9780061787299-0

By |2016-10-05T11:26:56-04:00October 5th, 2016|"My Life as a Doormat" Book|0 Comments

Speak your Truth.

Why do we feel terrible when we begin standing up for ourselves?

People pleasers are so use to staying silent, accepting abusive and critical verbal abuse that speaking our mind feels unnatural and uncomfortable.  Going along with the general consensus, and not making waves was our MO for so long we believed this to be normal.

During recovery from doormatism, it’s hard to speak our truth. But we must learn how to despite possible residual negative feelings.  The moment the words are spoken we may start traveling down the river of doubt. Then perhaps, turn in ourselves, beating our self up with false beliefs of unworthiness.   And then our most self destructive behavior: forgetting WHY we spoke our truth in the first place.  Forgetting we have the right to defend ourselves without guilt, shame or concern if we’ve upset our abuser is detrimental.

The good news is: our level of uncomfortableness fades the more we practice self care.

Stand up, speak out without guilt or shame.

#offthefloor

 

Anyone ever feel like this?

Anyone ever feel like this?

By |2016-10-02T09:51:57-04:00October 2nd, 2016|Miscellaneous mattiness|4 Comments

“Between the Covers”

In August I was interviewed on Between The Covers.  I had a wonderful time on the half hour television show dedicated to interviewing authors.  The episode airs on September 30th & October 1st.  I’m very excited and hope you’ll tune in or click here to view on line – http://www.pbs.org/video/2365847545/

Between The Covers airs in West Palm Beach and all of South Florida on WXEL PBS, on Sept. 30th at 5:30 pm & Oct. 1st at 10.00 am.  Wxel promopromo-for-btc

By |2016-09-12T12:52:35-04:00September 12th, 2016|"My Life as a Doormat" Book|0 Comments

Stress Triggers

Button pushersWe all know people who are masters at pushing our buttons. Most are family members and close friends. They aren’t toxic but cause enormous stress. They’re well-meaning but their good intentions are counterproductive to our needs and elevate our stress level.

Knowing WHO these people are, then keeping a safe distance (especially in stressful situations) is one way to manage their good intentions.

By |2016-08-16T10:25:12-04:00August 16th, 2016|Miscellaneous mattiness|5 Comments

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