It’s Not My Fault.

It is absolutely not Thinking you’re responsible for others moods, behavior, choices and happiness is an underlying problem for most doormats.  Many of us are empaths, empathizing  and experiencing  the feelings and thoughts of others as our own. And worse; taking responsibility for them.  Detaching is an arduous task but can be achieved. Next time you’re around someone who’s in a funk, remember this one truth: “It’s not my fault ” and respond accordingly.

Unless your life is reclusive, and interaction with others is negligible, reminding yourself      it is not your fault is paramount for becoming and remaining a recovering doormat.

Need daily reminders? Or a meaningful gift for the recovering doormat in your life? Visit The Society for Recovering Doormat Shop by following the link below –http://www.cafepress.com/+society-doormats+gifts

New Jersey Book Signings

East Brunswick Book signingI loved bringing My Life as a Doormat to the Northeast!  Thanks to all who came out to my book signings in New Jersey. The Garden State rocks!  book event

All there are in this world are other people…

Who hasn’t met an all-about-themself narcissist?  The Society for Recovering Doormats  term for them is ‘A’ Listers. They aren’t starring in movies, and walking the red carpet but  regard themselves as famous, powerful and better than every one else .  These celebrities in their own mind are preoccupied with judging and determining other’s worthiness and clueless about important life values.  Kindness, compassion and gratitude aren’t on their radar.  Doormats fall prey to ‘A’ Listers manipulation and unwittingly permit them to play judge and juror.

It is time to stop the madness  and remind these  individuals that “all there are in this world are other people, none are lesser or greater than you.”  If you can’t stand up and speak out to them, please stand up and speak out to yourself. We are all people