Thinking you’re responsible for others moods, behavior, choices and happiness is an underlying problem for most doormats. Many of us are empaths, empathizing and experiencing the feelings and thoughts of others as our own. And worse; taking responsibility for them. Detaching is an arduous task but can be achieved. Next time you’re around someone who’s in a funk, remember this one truth: “It’s not my fault ” and respond accordingly.
Unless your life is reclusive, and interaction with others is negligible, reminding yourself it is not your faultis paramount for becoming and remaining a recovering doormat.
Who hasn’t met an all-about-themself narcissist? The Society for Recovering Doormats term for them is ‘A’ Listers. They aren’t starring in movies, and walking the red carpet but regard themselves as famous, powerful and better than every one else . These celebrities in their own mind are preoccupied with judging and determining other’s worthiness and clueless about important life values. Kindness, compassion and gratitude aren’t on their radar. Doormats fall prey to ‘A’ Listers manipulation and unwittingly permit them to play judge and juror.
It is time to stop the madnessand remind these individuals that “all there are in this world are other people, none are lesser or greater than you.” If you can’t stand up and speak out to them, please stand up and speak out to yourself.