Today I will take care of me. End of story.

 

If it brings you joy, say yes. If it doesn’t, say no.  Sometimes it isn’t possible sticking with a  cut and dry answer, but many times it is just this simple.  Negating people and situations you know guarantee misery is a vital part of self care. 

Self care isn’t selfish;  it’s necessary even if it means disappointing others.  Slipping back into people pleasing mode is always a real possibility  for recovering doormats, so  before saying ‘yes’ to anybody, consider first, if you’re saying ‘yes’ to yourself as well.  

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Today.

By | 2015-11-20T17:41:09+00:00 November 20th, 2015|Miscellaneous mattiness|10 Comments

Are You an Over Carer?

Pleasing the whole world.

 

People pleasers are over carers. We’re too kind, accepting and accommodating. The dangerous effects of over caring  are short changing ourselves, completely ignoring self needs and fulfilling personal dreams and desires.  The people we
over care for are seldom grateful, and take full advantage of our generous nature.

Please examine your relationships and determine if they are meeting your needs.  Yes, despite what we’ve told ourselves, we mater and deserve reciprocative relationships.

Please yourself, because pleasing the whole world is  unhealthy, exhausting and impossible.   End of story.  

By | 2015-11-09T10:32:05+00:00 November 9th, 2015|Miscellaneous mattiness|6 Comments