We must take steps to move forward. Excuses will keep us stuck. Make no excuses for yourself or for others.
Standing up and speaking out for all of us here at The Society for Recovering Doormats.
Letting phone calls go directly to voice mail, declining social invitations, leaving texts and emails unanswered; I hide when I’m sad. Sometimes this behavior is healing, but when extended for long periods of time a sense of isolation sets in signaling my need to reach out to another person. Contacting someone else who’s struggling, or a trusted friend or family member reminds me I’m not alone, and helps me heal and move forward.
Following this advice will help keep you off the mat when interacting with ‘A’ Listers and toxic peeps. The toxics and ‘A’ Listers will try to drag you into their drama. Do not engage. Stand up and speak out for yourself, but don’t get sucked into the vortex of their time sucking, and emotionally draining life of never ending problems and issues.
‘It’s not okay’ means exactly that. But how many times has someone done something unacceptable and we said nothing? Perhaps that person offered an off handed ‘I’m sorry’ and we replied: ‘It’s okay’. It’s time to stand up and speak out and tell the thoughtless, insensitive peeps in our life that ‘It’s not okay.’
Over it. What mat doesn’t feel this way about certain people, and situations? If this brain fart is dancing through your mind then take action and change what you can. Then, disengage with whom you must.
Recovering mats need to set boundaries for everyone. Toxic peeps need verbal reminders so we need to stand up and speak out otherwise toxics will walk all over us.
Letting phone calls go directly into voice mail, declining social invitations, leaving texts and emails unanswered; I hide when I’m sad.
Some days it seems like everything is going wrong. Whatever we attempt is fraught with problems; one glitch after another. We feel disheartened and discouraged. Those are the times when this brain fart frolics inside my brain.