About “The Society”

Ivy Tobin  as  Rose Gardner

Ivy Tobin writing as
Rose Gardner

About “The Society”

The Society for Recovering Doormats is for people suffering from addiction to people-pleasing, who have low self-esteem, depression, a victim mentality, and are afraid to assert themselves.

If you’ve spent your life wanting to make people happy and ignoring your own needs then you are at risk of becoming, if not already, a doormat.

Our mission is connecting with other doormats and doormat sympathizers while gaining self esteem. Sometimes just knowing others are struggling with similar issues, is helpful. Reading or sharing stories is healing. Having a giggle or two while you’re here; priceless.

I hope you like the site and consider yourself a member. You don’t have to be a doormat to join; but it helps.

Standing up and speaking out.

Rose — Founding member and creator of The Society for Recovering Doormats.

Stamp Out Doormatism

It is 2014. A time for enlightenment and acceptance. With acceptance brings power. Gays are out of their closets, speaking up for equal rights and respect. Doormats  muddle through as matty messes feeling isolated and manipulated. We  need validation. ‘The Society for Recovering Doormat’s allows us to meet like-minded peeps. ‘The Society’ is a safe house where we pick ourselves up off of the floor and speak loudly for what we want. Speaking up and refusing acceptance of what doesn’t align with our needs and moral compass is a major step for a mat.

This concept isn’t novel.  In Paris there’s ‘The Society for Encouragement’. I’m sure it has nothing to do with helping doormats, but wouldn’t it be great if it did? And there are countless books written and programs designed by shrinks, and psychologists all offering advice and everyday strategies. Helping the mat has been a valiant, on-going effort.

I find that mats are docile, loving, trusting and non confrontational peeps with low self esteem.  Easy targets for individuals with manipulative, self serving agendas. It’s due time we raise our collective consciousness and put an end to doormatism. We’ve  been ignored for too long. Seen, but not heard, used and abused. I say “no more on the floor!”

A question that’s been buzzing around ‘The Society’ is: “How do I know if I am a doormat?”  Most peeps don’t realize they’re a mat until after a visit to “The Society for Recovering Doormat’s.”  During our formative years we are blissfully unaware of our mat status. But the cumulative damage from years of people pleasing and accommodating others renders us into submission and alas we are destined to doormatism. We smile to mask our pain but are silently miserable from neglecting our personal needs. If this sounds like you, then you are a doormat.

I am not a medical professional, or a psychologist. Just  a recovering doormat trying to help as many doormats as I can. One mat at a time.

Standing up and speaking out,
Rose.

12 thoughts on “About “The Society”

  1. I found your site, and never in all my years have I felt anthing fit my soul and heart the way your site touched me.
    I don’t even know what to write and this is the first site I have really joined.a
    Thank you

    • Hi Jurce,
      It is Sunday morning, and with coffee mug in hand, your comment is the first thing I see. My day is made. Thank you so much for your positive validation and viewership.
      Happy Holidays. :) Rose

  2. Thank you for this place. I am a people-pleaser and a doormat. A lot of my family likes it that way, but it makes me cranky and then no one wants to be around me. I feel stuck in a trap. But now I don’t feel so alone.

  3. I am recovering from this “affliction” slowly but surely. Thank you for this blog and for sharing. What a great place to encourage others and be encouraged!

  4. I really love this site. For the first time in many years, i don’t feel so alone.
    I love the humour, makes me smile.
    Mattiness, mattitude etc. As a matter of fact, Great matterial.
    I have been a people pleaser all of my life. I have now had enough.
    Am so pleased to have escaped the ”A Listers” who put me down and kept me down. They don’t like it when you escape and fight back.
    FREEDOM!
    WHOOHOO!

    • Hi Hazel, thanks for your wonderful comments. I enjoy seeing you over on FB, and so glad to have you here on my blog. Thanks again for being a part of The Society. :) Rose

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